And for anyone who ever thought that Ellen and I broke it off because of sexuality, you couldn`t be more mistaken. And for anyone who thought my mother`s prayers had anything to do with me marrying a man, forget it.
I do not believe that I fell in love with a woman because I was abused.
I was a bit of a big mouth my whole life. I`m a person who expresses themselves with a lot of openness.
I have been very clear to everybody that just because I`m getting married does not mean I call myself a straight.
For me to stay healthy in a relationship, the individuals have to nurture themselves.
The decisions that Ellen made on her show were between her and her producers. I supported her decisions. I was there to hug her when she got home.
I believe I went through a divorce. My relationship with Ellen is no less significant as a marriage than my relationship to Coley.
When you are coming out, you say it`s for you. But when everybody says it`s not OK, it becomes about that rather than about you. It disappointed me.
I searched so hard for a part that was so complex.
Before, I just spewed whatever it was I thought about everything. I tend to be more contemplative now.
To have gone through so much work to heal myself and have my mother not acknowledge in any way that she was sorry for what had happened to me, broke my heart.
I told my mother at about the seventh year of therapy that I had been abused sexually by my father, and she hung up the phone on me.
Are people angry with me? Sure, anything you do in your life, people are going to be angry at you.
I`m one of those people who was taught not to ruffle any feathers. Of course, I have no problem ruffling feathers.
I was raised to pretend.
I don`t belong to the straights now - they didn`t get me back.
He never admitted anything, even on his deathbed. He was a deluded liar. If it weren`t for my father, I don`t think I would be so open. So that`s a huge blessing.
I put myself on the line with my truth and my sexuality. That is my choice. My choice.
It gets really tricky giving advice. The older I get, the less advice I give.
When I was with Ellen, I was telling people, If you come out, it`s gonna be better for you. But I honestly don`t know that.
I`m very grateful for the platform that I`ve had in my life to speak out about the things I care about.
It`s important to talk about loving yourself and looking at your tragedies and the stuff that makes you grow.
We do not fall in love with the package of the person, we fall in love with the inside of a person.
It`s my job, to create a fantasy.
Are we changing the idea of what beauty is? Let`s hope so. I`m not the typical Hollywood beauty. Let`s hope we`re looking at the insides of people a little more.
And as a child, we have such a wonderful thing as children, that we can just make the best of everything, and say, Well, this must be what everybody else is experiencing, and I`ve got to make the best of it. You don`t know that it`s not good until you witness something that it seems better.
I`ve always kind of gone with my heart.
I`m always honest, whether I`m in the limelight or not.
"I put a very high premium on honesty. What I learned from (my father`s) death is that if you don`t accept your sexuality, it will kill you." -- Cosmopolitan magazine, May 1997